End of the year thoughts and photographs
Sometimes, the holidays are filled with the joy we associate with that time of year. The season flows. Magic is in the air. Sometimes, however, the holidays can be difficult and lonely, especially between Christmas and the New Year.
Here are some thoughts and reflections from my personal experiences that I’d like to pass along, along with visual representations from great photographers like Nobuyoshi Araki, Guy Bourdin, Juergen Teller, and Wolfgang Tillmans. I will continue the food theme in these photos as much as possible.
I deal with my feelings but try not to dwell unduly on them. I put the holidays in perspective: A holiday is one day out of 365. It is possible to get through any 24 hours.
Leading up to the New year, I remind myself that I am only human. I avoid making a long list of unrealistic goals. I am aware that there may be post-holiday backlash and resentment.
I don’t need to perform or try to be perfect all the time. Those who love me will accept me for who I am.
Sometimes, if we use our survival behaviours to get through the day, our feelings will catch up with us the next day. I have learned to deal with them, too, and get back on track as quickly as possible.
I show gratitude to the people in my life when love is available. I remind myself that I might not always be surrounded by loved ones, so I cherish them while I can.
fallen frames (1979) by Guy Bourdin I remind myself that I am not a minority if I find myself experiencing a less-than-ideal holiday. How easy but untrue to tell ourselves the rest of the world is experiencing the perfect holiday, and we’re alone in conflict. Some people are facing genocide, for instance, so I think and pray for them.
If I feel lonely, I remind myself that I can create my holiday agenda, buy myself a present, or even better, cook something festive in my kitchen and share it with my neighbours.
I unleash my loving, nurturing self and give in to the holiday spirit…
Maybe the past holidays haven’t been terrific, and perhaps this year wasn’t amazing (it kind of was, though), but I allow for better days and let go of my expectations. I work towards a peaceful, calm life—one that meets my needs.
I make sure to carve out time for mindfulness, including morning meditations, mindful eating, and joyful moments, even though some days might be tough.
It is okay to admit I am tired and give up some days; I cannot always perform the same way.
I let go of preconceived ideas and attachments and surrender.
I promise to prepare food and ensure I am well-fed and rested. I hope to also cook more than buy processed and ready-made food.
I learn something new daily, even though I might not know it.
Lastly, I remind myself that I am an ever-evolving, creative being with flaws, but the most I can do is try my best.
I hope you enjoyed the accompanying images along the way :) Share the post with your loved ones <3